Monthly Archives: April 2016

How To Seduce Women

You see it all the time in movies and read it in books, a confident man seduces a younger or older woman with ease. How do they do it? Is it all fiction? The truth of the matter is that you can learn how to seduce women with relative ease. All you have to do is make sure that you are looking into the right options overall. There is a trick to this solution, and it starts with figuring out what you want. Do you want to seduce a lot of women? Or do you want just one? Whatever the case is, make sure that you take a look at a few tips and tricks below to help you along the way.

Carry Yourself With Confidence

Learn to stand up straight. Dress nicely, and wear cologne. Make sure that you are not looking sloppy, and make sure that you always smell nice. Even if inside, you are not sure what you’re doing, and you are somewhat panicked, don’t let anyone know that. You have to be able to command attention, and focus on moving forward with anything that you’re doing. This takes time, but you can go this route if you just practice, and continually remind yourself of your own personal greatness. This is a major key to learning how to seduce women.

Buy Flowers For Women

Want to really get their attention? Buy them flowers. Seriously, buy a woman a bouquet of flowers and they’ll have you on their mind all day. The goal here is to get their attention so that they know you’re thinking of them, and are a gentleman. In the note card, put your name and then ask a question. Something simple goes a long way, like, “will you go on a date with me?”. Be prepared to show them the time of their lives, so think outside of the box. They don’t want to go, they’ll let you know, so don’t worry. Flowers work most of the time, so test it out and see what happens. Buying flowers can at least show you whether or not you’relearning how to seduce women.

Don’t Rush Sex

For those that are struggling to learn how to seduce women, you should slow down. Even if you’re kissing and things seem to be moving forward, pause things. Use your self-control and avoid having sex too soon. Make them want it more, and just give them a little taste here and there. Eventually they will pounce, and you’ll have them seduced with ease. In these modern times, someone that waits to have sex is rare especially when there’s mutual attraction. Pull it in a little, and you’ll get them wanting you more than ever.

Whats your last love

images-49Sustainable love isn’t a myth, it is just misnamed, for love & romance to be sustainable it must constantly change to grow with those involved. The real issue isn’t in the love nor romance, it’s in how people try to define forever that is the true issue.

People think forever, is to be unchanging.

To be unchanging is to break, is to wear down to nothing trying to hold onto what was.

Most lovers try to balance out their relationships based on outside benchmarks rather than their center. To base love and romance only upon someone else’s outstretched arms…

As Yeats says

“Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold… “

Romance is all about two people coming to terms with each other. Romance goes stale when two people stay the same. Now when you base love upon the nature of change, to create an ever changing love. This then establishes a baseline that you and your partner do shift, which then leads to always renewing the romance, a romance that can last upon a centre. Something that isn’t locked into a chest but rather connected handily together with awareness instead.

Anyways, I love the Oscar Wilde quote because his quote is 100% true when people try to make forever, to only be the same thing…! That becomes the same olde same olde before you know it.

So sad, but it seems most people prefer tragic love that is always fleeting over true love that is alwayschanging. People desire  a romance that connects them to new faces rather than trying to see a partner in a new light. All because we are seeking change as part of our nature. So let romance and love truly  change with time, allowing your partner to dance with you against change over a lifetime.

Learn to understand the difference and you will discover lasting love and a kaleidoscopic romance that stays strong with your relationship over time.

Shopping Malls Made Easier

Millions of people will go to a mall today. Among them will be single ladies. If your goal is to get more dates, then you have better get to the mall. Now, there are different times of day that you should go there. If you’re older than 18, don’t go after school, try to go during school hours, and try to make sure that you’re not going into shops and areas that are frequented by teenagers. That’s going to be a tough one for you. For others, this is fine, but if you’re over 18, be careful when trying to learn about meeting girls in shopping malls.

Find Similar Interests

You want to visit stores where women go, but that aren’t necessarily sexy. For instance, you don’t want to go to Victoria’s Secret and hang out. But you could go to a place like Hot Topic, which may have women that are into pop culture. Of course, there are other stores, but that’s just a quick example. Look for stores that have clothing for men and women, and try to keep an eye out for those that are shopping alone. Keep in mind that there’s a lot of stores where you can work on meeting girls in shopping malls.

Get Their Phone Number

When you see a woman that is shopping alone, just approach her. Say hello, and compliment them quickly. If they are approachable and smile back, ask for their phone number. Chances are they will either say yes or no. If they say no, wish them well and go away. If they say yes, then simply ask when a good time to call is, and leave. You don’t want a long conversation here, you simply want to get in and get out. Later on, depending on what they tell you about a good time, call them.

Get Coffee

The sure fire way that you’re going to need to consider when meeting girls in shopping malls is simple, they usually visit a coffee shop. Whether it’s for tea or mixed drinks, women love going to these locations. That’s where you can hang out and end up meeting someone. Ask to buy someone a drink, or better yet, get in line ahead of them and buy their drink outright. You’ll find that a great conversation starter can be simply buying someone a drink. You’ll be surprised how quickly this can work, assuming that the person is single.

Meeting girls in shopping malls is not hard. It’s just a matter of going out and being bold. The rewards of being bold are going to shine on you if you just ask. Don’t be scared, don’t be nervous, simply ask women out at the mall. Someone’s bound to say yes.

Overcoming Communication Conundrums in Relationships

Even in the strongest of relationships, there will be times when small irritations can cause mountains to grow out of molehills, so it’s important to keep striving for better communication.

As the essence of relationships, communication has a great impact on every aspect of life. Yet the channels of communication can sometimes become blocked, even among people who care deeply for each other. It’s often difficult to put our feelings into words or concentrate fully when our partner speaks. Unhelpful silences or verbal attacks can arise and drive us further apart.

Common barriers to communication include: threatening or unpleasant behavior such as criticism and bossiness; only hearing what we want to hear; getting bored or distracted; and not expressing our point clearly. Fortunately, working on our communication skills helps us to break through this sort of impasse. So follow these tried and tested tips to stop you reaching for the expletives and reach an understanding instead.

No matter what else is going on, try to make time for your partner on a day-to-day basis. Good communication is about deepening your understanding of each other, not simply avoiding arguments. Easier said than done, of course, but making time to talk is worth the effort. All being well, these occasions will be enjoyable and bring great rewards, so make a dinner date, share a bath or go for a walk together and let the conversation flow.

Secondly, remember the importance of intimate, non-sexual contact. Hugs and kisses are the glue which holds a relationship together, and consider activities such as sport to reconnect non-verbally. Psychologists believe the vast majority of communication takes place without words through body language.

Do you believe you know everything there is to know about your partner? It may be worth checking this out by asking them questions to reveal more about themselves. To deepen the communication and understanding between you, try talking about the times when you feel happiest or your hopes and dreams for the future. Don’t assume that your partner feels the same way you do.

This could bring up relationship ‘hot spots’ – work, money, childcare – which can then be dealt with openly. Experts suggest setting up reciprocal arrangements in which you both agree to take on an equal number of tasks and chores.

If you find yourself slipping into an argument, there are many ways to keep the row healthy. Most importantly, own your emotions by using “I” statements. For example, rather than “You make me angry,” or “This is all your fault,” try saying, “I feel concerned/upset…”. This keeps things calmer and makes it easier to compromise, as your partner will not become so defensive. Then keep to the point rather than slipping into attack and counter-attack, or emotional withdrawal.

But talking this way is only possible if you are aware of your own feelings. For this, you must recognize them, be accepting of them, and able to express them. We each have our own way of dealing with conflicts – your style may be to avoid the issue, give in, or blame the other person. Being aware of your style and that of your partner will help you resolve the situation.

In the heat of the moment, try to stay calm and accentuate the positive. See the other’s point of view while showing respect, and then look for a compromise that you can both accept. Listen carefully, give empathy and positive responses, and overlook the insults. Respond to criticism as useful information, if at all possible! Remember, the objective is not to stop every argument but to stop the escalating bitterness.

If either partner gets beyond the point of being civil and rational, ask for a “time-out” to calm down. But be sure to agree on continuing the discussion when you have had time to think about it.

Bear in mind that one of the secrets of happy couples is learning to tolerate or accept the other person’s faults. So-called “perfect relationships” do not exist, therefore small faults need to be accepted. Couples counseling encourages reaching an acceptance of one another through compassion and empathy, so you both come to truly understand the other person and become able to share your own feelings in depth. Then you can see the underlying reasons for their criticism or silence, perhaps they are really feeling unloved, rejected or hurt.

Represent any one single definition

I met a friend the other day, who just had a family member pass away. Even encountering death indirectly thru a friend’s experience stirs up deep questions. The feeling of death, confronting the emptiness left behind, is a challenge for each person. No words will fill the void and yet we are driven to try.

Over the years I have helped many people find peace with death. I initially show others how to understand and then accept death as a transition… We all have a strange dance with death. I have died, I have had many friends and family who have passed away, so I am on first name terms with Death, not a bad fellow at all really. Yet the strangest fact which I have only come to realize recently is : Death is purely about our relationships. We don’t mourn our own passing. We mourn for those we hold close in our relationships.

The closer or more connected to a person you were, the sharper the edge of death will feel.

Death doesn’t represent any one single definition.

Transition isn’t a static process. It represents many different stories all at once. The passing of the body back into the earth, the process of moving with spirit, the interactions between memories and expectations, and so much more.

Since death is a statement about relationship, the most powerful answers to help work with death arise from responses that give us gracefully acceptable options towards the reconciliation of the relationship between yourself and those who just passed away.

Dealing with death is reconciliation.

First and foremost, always when looking for words to help another, let the words come up as

Condolences

As simple condolences respects each person’s process coming to terms with so many different definitions and transitions they now face. We often find no single word works, Yet we still strive to console: as if a few key words or truths could ever cover the fullness of the transition of death and all its faces at once.

One way to embrace this process is discovering your own words & feelings that find completeness in your reconciliation process.

For example:

The Mexican definition of soul, is the footprint we leave behind for others to connect to, in that we are present, still after death, in how others remember us. Even the person who passed away can change and grow within the stories we hold of them. The tricky part then is to release the stories that diminish us and to hold the stories that enable us to grow.

Discovering in these stories, growing for both you and the person who passed away to become more.

In this we can find our equilibrium between the past , now and the future and not lose those we love.

Blessings as you release those stories that no longer serve anyone
Blessings as you find and refine your inner stories now which serve for your living life now.

The edge of death can be very sharp. Don’t let the sharpness cut you off from your own life.

Sometimes tears are the best pillow.

True friends never pass, they merely go to rest in your heart later in life.

Let them rest deeply, in the heart… let passing friends rest deeply.

Death as a experience goes beyond words because it represents when a person melds back into the larger weave of everything. The breaking you will feel from the death of a loved one is both the breaking and failure of words to express your feelings. So the lesson is don’t try to find the words, don’t force yourself to express what is larger than yourself.

Embrace it, view it, discover instead poetry: of the whole experience. The deeper melding of so many images, memories and connections into something new, hold your former relationship as a form of spiritual poetry in the feelings you now have. In that you will honor the memories and move on to a future without leaving the one you love.